1. Subject of mediation: Mismatched sexual desire between the initiator Peter and his wife, the co-participant Nina, with both confirming the same factual description.
2. Assessment: The initiator Peter stated that he desires more sex, and the co-participant Nina simply confirmed this. The dispute is therefore not about facts, but about expectations. The fundamental principle to be respected is bodily autonomy: neither partner may lay claim to the other's sexuality, even if their desire is sincere and understandable. At the same time, Nina's lesser desire is not a flaw that needs to be corrected. It is a difference, not a fault.
3. Mediation proposal: The mediator advises an open conversation in which Peter says what sexuality means to him, and Nina says what closeness means to her and when she is open to it. He recommends that neither party pressure the other and that a solution be sought only by consent. It would be sensible to recognize that a differing desire does not mean rejection of the person. A fair solution between partners is not compensation, but mutual respect and an agreement that takes both into account.
4. Concluding remark: Happy couples know when to say “no” and when to say “once more” – but true artists manage to fit both into the same sentence without losing the rhythm.
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